This sub is geared toward the United States Army, but all are welcome to join regardless of military service. This sub has a wiki page containing information and links to answered questions. Click here or on "wiki" in the top tab menu. What's the social life and dating scene like for enlisted women? This thread got me curious to ask about the social lives and dating experience of enlisted women. The army is so male dominated, so the perspectives are told from that angle. I would assume it would be easy for women, but from what I've seen, most of the somethings and somethings men marry so early.
I was understanding, supportive and positive to help keep him happy and strong as he hated his job and prepared for Ranger school, yet he just kept pushing me away. He didn't even want to spend any time together before he went to Ranger school, and being a good gf I was understanding My dad was in the Army for 21 years and my parents made it through it. I've seen the good and bad through out my life with military relationships. They definitely aren't easy, and take a lot of work.
I just want to say that this is exactly what happened to me I'm not your ex though. It's hallowing to hear of an identical situation.
So you cleaned out his bank account, destroyed his house and took all his belongings, and got knocked up by his best friend but asked him for child support? He's the one that keeps texting me while I'm trying to forget what he did so we can maybe be friends again one day.
I actually was with someone who was in national guard that I dated for a while. He trusted me so much that he made me his power of attorney with full access to his money and all when he deployed. I didn't even screw him over after we broke up during his deployment It all depends on the situation. You may be sent on a hardship tour to Korea and not be able to bring your spouse with, or you may be stationed an hour from home.
This is completely out of your control, but it just depends on what kind of relationship you are and how committed you are to making it work.
From experience, long dating distance is going to have a very high rate of failure where as if you are married and your spouse comes with you to your duty station, you are upping your odds greatly. The military is its own beast though and you never know what its going to do.
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Are you dating someone who is also in the military? Are they God help you in your same unit? If they are in the military, at least they will understand the exact nature of the kind of BS you need to deal with and how you can't be there every single minute of the day. If you are going to date someone especially if they are a civilian they better be the most secure, honest, compassionate, understanding, and mature person, ever.
People who do long distance relationships need to really put aside their selfish ways and have unadulterated trust in the other person. If there is no trust and patience the relationship will ultimately fail.
As a divorcee, I would hold off on getting married until you get to know yourself better and you know exactly what you want in your significant other. Every suicide case I know was caused by a woman finally pushing them over the edge.
The last thing you need 8 months into a deployment is a very hateful letter telling you she has taken everything and had your dog put down. Jesus, people actually do that? Kill a person's dog out of spite? That is a whole level of terrible Yes, it happened once.
It was a very sad day, the poor bastard hung himself within 2 days of getting back to Blighty. The biggest strain is by deployments or long separations, whatever they might be from.
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I have noticed that people who have been married for awhile and then gotten into military, or if someone has been established in the military for awhile and then gotten married, their relationships tend to be better than someone who gets married right before or right out of basic training or similar circumstances.
Also, It generally helps if the wife statistically speaking they aren't the service member has some sort of military background in her family, then she's knows what to expect from a military marriage. This is just from my own personal experiences with my soldiers and other friends in the military.
This is true for us. My husband joining was both our decisions.
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It sucks being away from him when he goes to school, or deploys. He's missed many appointments for our pregnancy, will miss her birth. Missed holidays, birthdays, anniversaries ect I had no military background myself but we'd been together for 4 yrs, married for 1. It has strengthened our relationship in so many ways. He wouldn't have joined if either one of us thought we wouldn't make it though.
Pretty hard man, mine fell apart towards the end, just stay single and enjoy it, the heart break plus stress at work isn't worth it. Depends on the people involved. It can work. Just don't ever rush into shit. Secret's out now. Gentlemen, if she says she's a lesbian, she's just playing hard to get. Now I'm happily married and still have my rank. Thanks top! Seen this gif a million times, and it wasnt until a few weeks ago when someone pointed it out here on that I saw the finger in the top right corner.
Can't unsee it now. You can be a skin mattress if you want to be. Back in the day my friends and I used to play this fun game where we would go to a bar and see who could hook up with the fattest girl there. It's called "whale hunting". Wildly entertaining because we all usually got laid awesome but it was with fatties not awesome, usually comical. It has a different name wherever you go. I've had Drum friends say they, "Make the new guys get their Mountain Tab" by banging a fat girl while at Knox it was called, "Hogging".
I wasn't into those games, but the stories I couldn't resist to listen to the stories. Jesus Christ. At Knox you just throw a rock up in the air, and when it comes down it'll hit a fat chick.
I won that prize once Got blackout drunk and woke up in the morning, in a hotel, with That was my first all-day hangover at the tender age of But real talk. Don't sleep around. Word travels fast in the army.
I got married to a fellow soldier. Being single had its ups and downs. On the positive side, it was definitely easy to get sex, if that was all you wanted. On the negative side, if you wanted something more than that, it got tricky. A lot of guys could be jerks. Like, they wanted something casual with me, made clear they wanted nothing more, and then would get pissed if I broke it off and dated someone else because I wanted something more serious than that.
Some guys would also get pissed if you just showed no interest in them when they tried to flirt with you. Like, fuck off, dude, I was polite about not being interested, there's no reason to get super drunk and scream that I'm a bitch because I'm clearly here with someone who isn't you, and I blew you off at the bar when you tried to proposition me. The main thing I learned as a single female soldier is that it is extremely important to never date anyone in your unit.
Only bad things come out of that. When I got married, most guys left me alone, but weirdly some took a wedding ring as a special challenge. I remember being TDY one time at a class, and a bunch of us were out at a bar, just doing a casual group hang thing.
Dating during military service. So I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year with my boyfriend, who is Korean. But two days ago he started his military service. I was able to visit him the week before and also went with him and his parents to drop him off at the base. Now I am back in my own country and am missing him. Dating is hard because you don't always know who is a great guy and who isputting up a front. In the realm of military men, try to avoid the ones that get caught up in unit drama. If they gossip about their friends' wives/girfriends/SOs I would stay way. For some people the military . This thread got me curious to ask about the social lives and dating experience of enlisted women. The army is so male dominated, so the perspectives are told from that angle. I would assume it would be easy for women, but from what I've seen, most of the somethings and somethings men marry so early.
One guy started flirting, I made it clear I was uncomfortable with that, and left the bar when he tried to keep going with it. I woke up the next morning to find 11 text messages from him, including one saying he was at the door of my hotel room knocking I'd fallen asleepand asking why I wouldn't let him in. That freaked me the fuck out.
I stopped going out as much after that, which kind of sucked, but made things easier overall. Just because they want casual sex doesn't mean they like having it taken away. They got pissy because you stopped giving it to them. I do this.
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Just in general I like to fuck married women. I can actually see Timmy's dad coming back from a deployment only to find his wife in bed with dinkleberg. At least an Art 15 is an actual punishment.
Extra duty or even loss of rank or pay can teach the Soldier a lesson, that they can then learn and grow from and become a better Soldier for it.
r/army: United States Army on . Walking down the aisle of a local commisary, spot a sexy young blonde sporting a mini skirt and what looks like a halter top, scooch on over to her in my oversized JNCO jeans and polo, ask what a fine young thang is doing round these parts and not out shopping off post at a luxurious Walmart, she tells me her daddy is the Brigade Commander, I nope the fuck. For starters, the vast majority of Military towns are shitholes, which means that the dating pool is already pretty shallow, and you're not going to find a lot of educated women who have their shit together (a Military town was the first time I ever encountered the phenomenon of struggling to find a woman who didn't already have kids). Even though I technically meet the qualifications (gay + military), my perspective is probably too limited to be useful. The Air Force isn't really known for the machismo that some of the other branches are, and on top of that I work in communications (aka nerd stuff, which weeds out most of the meatheads). I could say that being gay isn't a big deal at all, but I say that as someone that.
Every good senior NCO I've known got an Art 15 at some point for doing something stupid as a junior enlisted. But it seems like Commanders now don't even want to pursue NJP. I guess it draws too much attention from Battalion and Brigade, nobody wants the Soldier getting JAG and trail defense services up their ass. The Officer Corps is at critical mass with pussy-ass "leaders" who want to go with the flow and impress their boss rather than do the job.
So what do we do now? Counsel the Soldier, give him a But Sir, this will be the 9th counseling for this kid. We do the counseling and nothing happens. That Soldier is getting the impression that he can do whatever he wants and all he'll get is a stern talking-to written down on a piece of paper. You keep saying that the counseling statements will be used as a papertrail to demonstrate a pattern of misconduct, but when are we going to act on it?
Should we just wait until your command time is up so you can move on and it wont be your problem anymore? Shit gets me fired up.
I hope that one day, when you get busted for violating the UCMJ with your zipper, you get to practice what you preach. Maybe I'm just exceptionally ugly, but the entire time I've been in, I've never been hit on once. I have been in a relationship the entire time, but I don't wear a ring so no one would know if they didn't ask.
I also don't assume everyone is hitting on me and just straight up tell them.
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I've been on countless tdys with hundreds of different people all guys because group and haven't been bothered once. Your Army barracks is full of lonely privates looking to screw, so ask youself-is that what I really want? Probably not. Just get out in the community and live.
You're bound to find younger people with broader ambitions. I'm more concerned about hopping on Tinder and accidentally matching a divorced SGM or O5 or something Yeah, but as super junior enlisted I only just got out of AIT I would feel really uncomfortable screwing someone so much higher ranking than me.
I would just feel pretty intimidated.
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Even before the army I had a hard time giggity socializing with my superiors, and the army definitely hasn't helped that any. Be the best lay of their life. Rock their world. Make them shake like a California earthquake.
Then, later on, when you need a favor, phone it in. Trust me bro. Fairly normal percentage of straight up lesbians Literally every Army or former Army female I've messed with has been bi to some extent or other. So if you're a chick looking for chicks I'd say your chances are good It helps if you are near big cities.
I'm in San Antonio which is close to Austin. I've had more matches with chicks in Austin. I've met a fair handful of lesbian and bisexual soldiers and airmen, on a joint base. Navy too. In my admittedly limited Army experience so far, there seems to be disproportionate compared to the general population percentage of lesbians. They tend to band together, weirdly.
Not at all. But they seemed to have a pack mentality. I guess it sort of stems from an "us against the world" kind of thing.
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I just didn't expect such a clique, especially amongst people who had nothing in common aside from what gender they found attractive. Engaged enlisted guy here, I just wouldn't date anyone in the military. Especially within your unit, its just asking for trouble. Dating outside the military in my experience was so much better, as long as they can accept the stresses of it all. You'll probably have more orbiters than the sun within a few months of enlisting.